There’s a lot of boy-stuff we have to deal with in my
household. But that’s what you get when you have seven of them.
So believe me when I say, when it comes to sons, I’ve seen it
Still, there’s one thing that never gets easier, that’s
seeing them fall in and out of love and having to deal with all
the challenges in between.
One of my boys was a freshman in high school when he fell
hard for another girl in his class.
Let’s call her… Bunny.
Before you can say “high school romance,” I was driving the
two lovebirds to the local movie theater. I felt like a
low-class limo driver in my mom-van as the two smooched in the
back seat all the way to the mall. But as I watched the show in
the rear view mirror, I was proud of my boy for keeping his
hands in sight at all times and treating Miss Bunny with
Innocent enough, so far, but this phase did introduce us to a
whole new world of boy-girl interactions. He had older brothers
around at the time, so they were the first ones I accused when I
found a condom (still in its wrapper, thank God), in the front
yard. None of the older boys fessed up, but Beau Romeo said,
“Oh, that’s Bunny’s.” Sitting him down for a stern talking
to about 14 being a way-too tender age to engage in anything as
serious as sex, I was less than thrilled with his blasť attitude
about the condom issue.
“Bunny’s mom got pregnant when she was a teenager and she
doesn’t want her to mess up her life,” he said. “Every time we
go anywhere, she shoves a condom at Bunny.”
Weird mom behavior if you ask me. But Bunny’s mom should have
been much more concerned about what I discovered on my boy’s
computer one day when browsing around. We have computer rules in
place at our home, such as having it located in the dining room
where everyone walking by can have a peek at what you are up to.
And, all of our seven sons know that Mom and Dad will be
checking up on where they’ve been on the Internet. No porn for
So you can imagine my horror when one day while checking into
Boy Romance’s picture folder, I discovered a full-frontal nudity
shot from our dear Bunny. It was T.M.I. (too much information)
in the hugest sense and I felt like I wanted to scrub my
eyeballs after viewing Bunny’s “assets.” Because of the content
of the talk, Hubby had to take this one. Lucky him. And
the chat focused on three issues that we saw with this behavior
now known as “sexting:”
Emailing sexual pictures back and forth to each other is
NEVER considered proper dating technique.
The pictures are available for anyone in our household
(including our 7-year-old twins all the way up to our 25
year-old) to enjoy. Temptations like that should never be
available in our household on a computer used by every young
man in the house.
“Sexting” is a crime that could land both parties
(especially Bunny) in front of a grim-faced judge.
As concerned parents, both Hubby and I started doing our
homework on this teen phenomenon and came up with
some research recently published by The National Campaign to
Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.
This report really opened our eyes to the temptations that
exist and that we need to warn our young men about. When we were
teens there was no such thing as an Internet, cell phones that
took pictures or videos or the email technology to send
If I were a parent of a young woman right now I’d be freaking
out because almost three-quarters of them have sent sexually
provocative photos out through the Internet. Wow.
With the knowledge that almost 90 percent of us are online
(says the National Campaign) and more than 255,000,000 of us own
cell phones in America, I realized that’s a LOT of pictures of
nude children. So, here’s the bare bone of what we’ve told our
platoon of boys about this issue:
Sexting is illegal and will never be tolerated in our
Treat girls with respect at all times. No matter if
they’re three, thirty or ninety-three, girls are to be
treasured. And, this especially includes their reputation.
We will be monitoring everything you do in our house. We
have full access to your computer, your email, and your cell
phones. We WILL be looking at photos you have stored on all
of your devices.
If we find any inappropriate items in any device, you
will lose the privilege of owning that device. (This last
one is a threat worse than death.)
And what of the romance between our Dr. Love and Miss Bunny,
you ask? Well it all ended as these things often do. Bunny never
used the condom stash in her purse (praise be), broke off the
relationship and left behind a broken-hearted boy.
*names have been shielded to protect the little devils.